My
Approach to Personal Relationships
These are the basic types
of relationship I expect to have and while I don't consider this page to
act as a "filter"; it helps to present my points of view on a subject often
bumpy and disappointing. I am an upfront type of person and I believe that
it is better to set the terms of engagement early on to avoid painful misunderstanding
in the future.
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Acquaintances
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Friends
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Beyond...
1.-
Acquaintances.
The easiest stage of relationship.
I include in this category from Internet pen pals to my coworkers. Who
is my acquaintance? Anyone I know by name (be it their real name or screen
name). I have few requirements in this category; number one you need to
be in touch, at least by means of e-mail. I am not interested in group
chatting so, please do not invite me to Internet Chat rooms; however I
do personal chat when my activities allow me to do so. This category is
so broad that you can bet there are levels; and again you can bet that
the stronger relationship comes through in-person interaction. It is also
worth noting that I am a reserved person by nature. In a group of new people
I would rather listen than to talk. I am very selective to whom I talk.
I avoid always shallow and negative conversation; therefore if your favorite
subjects are MTV, soap operas, the latest and juicy gossip and why the
world is going down the tubes; don't expect too much from me. But don't
take me wrong I also talk about shallow subjects with everybody. What I
mean is that I don't hang around too often with people to whom I can't
talk about something more beyond vagaries. I believe in the power of association
and I like being surrounded by positive and successful people. So, if you
are, or want to become, one of the minority (a merry person) you are most
welcome. On the other hand; if you want to transform me into a dreamless
person; please PASS ME!
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2.-
Friends.
True friendship is the second
highest level of relationship. I have a very FEW true friends. Who is my
friend? The one that always look for my best interest; who will never badmouth
me, always help me to the extent of his/her means, a person of integrity,
strong principles (which doesn't necesarily have to be the same as mine),
and honest; who always support me, listen to me when I need a shoulder,
a person who might not approve all my actions but never betrays me, who
understand that I am not perfect and sometime will do something that will
hurt his/her feelings. This person knows that all the things I had listed
as requirements I give it in kind (if I ever fail to comply with this,
don't hesitate to remind me about that very last statement). This is what
I consider true friendship; and if you can grasp the deep of this concepts
you will know why I have only a very reduced number of FRIENDS.
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Beyond...
Living in one of the most liberal
states of the US I shall make this statement: I AM A STRAIGHT
MALE. Therefore this section is intended only for STRAIGHT SINGLE
FEMALES.
After having made that absolute
clarification it is very important that I further explain that this section
does exists only because I am single and available. Also I have strong
principles about this type of relationship. I DO NOT believe in divorce;
for me marriage is for life, I view divorced people the same as married
people who lives separated; therefore I don't date divorced women.
Please read
my
approach to life before continuing. It might help you not to
waste your time reading further only to find later that you don't like
what I hold dear. Oh! I almost forgot to tell you that you may want to
check also my tastes
. As love is a superior level of friendship it is also a good idea to check
my standing on friendship, it is not only about what I am looking for;
it is above all, about what I give.
I have read several ads and
a key factor I see women like to ask is: financial stability. Certainly
nothing wrong with the general idea, but... while I do have what could
be called a stable job with room for growth; please make sure you read my
business section to understand my approach to finances. If your
idea of financial stability is a "nice, safe secure job" you may want to
reconsider me. I rather believe in financial freedom; the type of income
that comes from business ownership and investments, OUCH! That means...
RISK!!! (remember my approach to life as being an ADVENTURE?). Just consider
this: What would you prefer; a life partner who is available only a few
hours a week or a full time one? Would not you prefer to work because you
like it instead of because of those darned bills?
You need to be between 27 years
old up to my age. Those limits are not written in stone but provides a
basic frame. You are Hispanic or Caucasian and of proportionate body style,
not too thin, not too big, preferable you are Catholic, otherwise Christian
is acceptable, but definitely you ARE NOT atheist, agnostic, or other non
Christian religion. I respect other people beliefs, but close personal
relationships are hard enough without the weakness of a different set of
core values. If you are looking only "fun" we MIGHT tango but I am not
used to it and therefore I don't know all the tricks of the trade; you
must be patient and willing to teach. If you are looking for a serious
type (my preferred option) then it is advisable to check my section on
acquaintances as that explains how I would "perform" in casual social events.
Needless to say that you shall believe in long-term commitments and be
willing to accommodate yourself to your partner, confident that I am willing
to do the same. I believe in sharing things that makes the other happy
as a way to achieve personal happiness.
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